Anonymous Sperm Donation
An interesting article: "My Father Was an Anonymous Sperm Donor:
I was angry at the idea that where donor conception is concerned, everyone focuses on the "parents" -- the adults who can make choices about their own lives. The recipient gets sympathy for wanting to have a child. The donor gets a guarantee of anonymity and absolution from any responsibility for the offspring of his "donation." As long as these adults are happy, then donor conception is a success, right?As Elizabeth Marquardt recently pointed out with regard to another donor sperm story:
Not so. The children born of these transactions are people, too. Those of us in the first documented generation of donor babies -- conceived in the late 1980s and early '90s, when sperm banks became more common and donor insemination began to flourish -- are coming of age, and we have something to say.
I'm here to tell you that emotionally, many of us are not keeping up. We didn't ask to be born into this situation, with its limitations and confusion. It's hypocritical of parents and medical professionals to assume that biological roots won't matter to the "products" of the cryobanks' service, when the longing for a biological relationship is what brings customers to the banks in the first place.
We offspring are recognizing the right that was stripped from us at birth -- the right to know who both our parents are.
And we're ready to reclaim it.
Of course, the fact that all these half-siblings, and who knows how many more, were conceived in and mostly growing up in Colorado, and are now teenagers, and it’s completely up to their parents and the clinics whether to tell them the truth, and they will soon begin dating and might find that cute guy or girl who seems so *familiar* somehow really attractive . . . that fact alone — that we are intentionally setting up a generation of young people who could unknowingly sleep with a half-sibling — should be setting off alarm bells everywhere.A good idea would be to require that all sperm donors: 1) consent to the release of their names and contact information; 2) keep their contact information updated at all times; and 3) agree to provide child support for any child conceived using their donated sperm. Of course, these requirements (particularly #3) would stop anonymous sperm donation dead in its tracks, which would be the point. Why should the law make it easy for men to conceive children (potentially with dozens of women) for whom they bear no responsibility?